In my usual way of keeping it simple, let’s look at marriage.
Marriage is primarily a relationship between two people, though, its possible
extensiveness extensions in human, financial and other forms, makes it a special relationship with huge expectations.
Characteristics of marriage:
The foundation of a potentially successful marriage begins with shared interests and values. Two can not walk together except they agree. Moving in opposite directions never takes a couple anywhere. (1)
Oneness – Two become one, in unity of purpose.
Acceptance – Couples eventually know their strengths and weaknesses, yet embrace these while working together to improve each other. Like the first couple, Adam and Eve, they saw they were naked, but, were not ashamed( Genesis 2:24&25). I need to add that, some couples use each other’s weakness to control, undermine or demean the other, this is principally the devil’s duty and not one for married partners, except of course they are in the relationship for some other reasons.
Respect – Showing consideration and treating each other with esteem is very necessary in any relationship, more so in marriage. It does not depend on the other person in any way, no matter what the other party is , does, says or contribute to the relationship, we ought to respect him or her.
However, trust unlike other attributes of a “good” relationship is earned. It is a product of experience in marriage. Therefore, it is the duty of each person to relate in a manner that commands the trust of the other, through truthful and righteous conducts of our daily affairs – work, speech, behaviour and so on.
Marital duties are directly or indirectly defined in most culture, religion and in our human consciousness. Fortunately, money, affluence and societal status are often not essential element of a good marriage. (2)
Marriage is a commitment, requiring trust and mutual respect to forge through the challenges that so often confront it.
Sex, family, gifts, good health, companionship, longevity, happiness, good financial state and spiritual progress are products of working together or like-mindedness in marriage. These and other positive out-comes can only be achieved and maintained through hard work.
Nothing should be taken for granted in marriage. To get the best of it, you sacrifice the most. (3) . Be unassuming, play your part to the best of your ability. Remove malice, revenge,competitiveness, anger and pray without ceasing. Somehow, someday, you will have “good” success.