Personal Fulfillment

These are some of the issues I had to deal with recently to achieve my present state of tranquility in spite the surrounding turmoil.

Self acceptance: You are the best you.

Smile because you deserve to

Time alone/Self appraisal: Preferably daily to congratulate or encourage yourself on your effort so far.  Re-define goals and objectives if need be and always envision a better tomorrow.

Define self-worth: Values and interests determines what you do, how, when and with whom it is done. Avoid the fast and easy way which inevitably leads to destruction. Take pride in the dignity of honest labour. Blow your trumpet, if nobody does.

Spirit of entitlement: This often produce selfish greedy people, who expect so much of others and never see why they should sacrifice for the society.  It also leads to ingratitude, making it more difficult for others to help them in the future. It is good practice to see everyone positive effort as a favour worthy of appreciation.

Morality: Everyone needs to obey laws – God, state, work ethics, family, relationships and so on.

Empowerment: Empower your self through education – watch educational programmes on television/radio, listen to news and current affairs, participate in community enlightening programmes, read books and learn new skills. Gradually expand your horizon and ability; this will boost your moral and self-esteem. Always challenge yourself and be happy with the result, if not for anything at least for trying.

Ask for help: In this life, everybody needs somebody at one point or another. When ever you reach a dead-end, asks for help – it is never over until it is over. Use tried and trusted sources starting with approved help lines and your family doctor/general practitioner (GP), try impersonal approaches, and use organizations. Remember we have being failed by trusted people such as clergy, family, teachers and respected members of the society; most people are potential abusers when they know your vulnerability (use link icon to blog). Needless to say, using your intuition and proper channels, these institutions are still very useful.

You may need help if you experience any of these:

  • Exhaustion combined with extreme stress and anxiety, or you feel you can not cope any more.
  • Always avoiding people or uncomfortable in the midst of others
  • Need stimulants or depressant in any form to face each day or sleep.

Inner Peace

Life and its different dimensions  needs to be balanced to have a healthy body and mind. 




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Illustration of the human life cycle: baby> child> adolescent> adult> old 

Every part of  our being  is specially crafted by nature and nurture beginning from conception. Discovering one’s special make is very important( knowing your strengths and weakness), no  amount of excessive stretching or work can create a new us.  it takes a great person to admire the talents and achievements of friends, peers and competitors you don’t have to be them or strive for the  same things, discover your inner talents and strengths and  polish these to the best of your ability.  We need to also know when to pause,break or completely stop if need be with our head high up, having done the best we could possibly do.

To survive at all, it may be necessary to overstretch or “create” certain  capabilities, to do this we need the support of the society (big brother) close family and friends to at least guarantee a reasonable quality of life, without being critical or judgemental.

Expectation or better put the spirit of entitlement make  people believe they are entitled to certain lifestyle,talent or position  e.t.c. this have led to significant imbalance in most aspect of life, producing unstable  people with physical, psychology or spiritual problem which either make them clinically mad, from mild depression to all sorts of psychotic disorders or commonly these days addicted to different types of substances ranging from food,exercise , work or  mind altering drugs.

Once again we need to know who we are, not  who we ought to be, where we are, not where we ought to be. We should discover what we enjoy most, the job most natural to us irrespective of the level or class, our talents, hobbies and develop these.

Everyone  must  learn:

1. Contentment: Gratitude for who we are and what we are. Learn to see the best in every situation  and dwell on the positive –  there are two sides to a coin.

2.  Know our comfort zone, but do not rest in it, with right training and practice, maximise your ability, keeping in mind the balance of life.

3. The beauty of  simple or uncomplicated life. this can be the foundation for  new experiences or adventure before we venture afield if necessary.

Another way of  having peace of mind is to acquire and balance fundamental human needs as discussed by Nax-Neef and associates  Continue reading