These are some of the issues I had to deal with recently to achieve my present state of tranquility in spite the surrounding turmoil.
Self acceptance: You are the best you.
Smile because you deserve to
Time alone/Self appraisal: Preferably daily to congratulate or encourage yourself on your effort so far. Re-define goals and objectives if need be and always envision a better tomorrow.
Define self-worth: Values and interests determines what you do, how, when and with whom it is done. Avoid the fast and easy way which inevitably leads to destruction. Take pride in the dignity of honest labour. Blow your trumpet, if nobody does.
Spirit of entitlement: This often produce selfish greedy people, who expect so much of others and never see why they should sacrifice for the society. It also leads to ingratitude, making it more difficult for others to help them in the future. It is good practice to see everyone positive effort as a favour worthy of appreciation.
Morality: Everyone needs to obey laws – God, state, work ethics, family, relationships and so on.
Empowerment: Empower your self through education – watch educational programmes on television/radio, listen to news and current affairs, participate in community enlightening programmes, read books and learn new skills. Gradually expand your horizon and ability; this will boost your moral and self-esteem. Always challenge yourself and be happy with the result, if not for anything at least for trying.
Ask for help: In this life, everybody needs somebody at one point or another. When ever you reach a dead-end, asks for help – it is never over until it is over. Use tried and trusted sources starting with approved help lines and your family doctor/general practitioner (GP), try impersonal approaches, and use organizations. Remember we have being failed by trusted people such as clergy, family, teachers and respected members of the society; most people are potential abusers when they know your vulnerability (use link icon to blog). Needless to say, using your intuition and proper channels, these institutions are still very useful.
You may need help if you experience any of these:
- Exhaustion combined with extreme stress and anxiety, or you feel you can not cope any more.
- Always avoiding people or uncomfortable in the midst of others
- Need stimulants or depressant in any form to face each day or sleep.